The “Petty’s” are a small minded group of people that dwell in the lives of others. They find out little minute tidbits of information about other people and build upon this information, making a more “interesting” story.  The “Petty’s” are around us all. You know a few. They are co workers, neighbors, friends and family.

I was just a headline for the “Petty’s”.  I told one person a very small bit of information. Not even thinking twice about it. I was sharing a particular experience, idle conversation. You see I knew already that this particular “Petty” was a bitch-boy. A man who gossips and stirs up shit like a 12 year old little girl.  As I  should have expected, he went and told his “work wife”, who told her “work wife”, who told my friend.  By the time the story reached person # 4, the facts were diluted and scrambled into something more than the truth.

Beware of sharing too much with the wrong people. If you are a person of interest to the masses, the masses will fabricate stories about you. It’s all somewhat fascinating. I was reminded of the game in elementary school. You whisper something in the ear of  the first person, and they whisper what you said to the next person, and so on and so on.  By the time the last person gets the story, it’s completely different.  I should be flattered, ” Lil ol’ me, being talked about by people who are non motherfucking factors in my life.”

I have just realized I am looking at this whole topic in the wrong light. I am so important to other people that stories are told about my life. I am somewhat of a celebrity.  Gee thanks Mr “Petty”.

“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.”
Thank you, Eleanor Roosevelt

A friend of mine lost someone recently. She was a much older woman  who lived a very long and full life. I have heard many stories about this person, and all in favorable light. Good deeds, kind words, inspirational talks, basically a 92 year old Mother Teresa. Have you ever considered what YOU will leave behind when you leave this earth?

What will the people in your life say about you when you are gone? It’s actually a question worth pondering.  But how do you ask it? I can picture myself asking a friend.

Me- “Hey, let me ask you a question.”

Friend-”Ok, shoot

Me-”What do you think of me, honestly? Am I kind? What are my best traits? Do you often turn to me when you need something, like a kind word or support and inspiration?”

Friend- (gulp, long pause) “Sure.”

Me- “Damn.”

It makes me consider helping others more. Maybe giving a few dollars to the next homeless person that asks.  Perhaps answering the phone each time that needy friend calls. And actually listening this time, not just mumbling the occasional, “really? wow”.

Should I change my ways now to become the person that people admire and talk about when I cross over to the other side?

Well, as I see it, I am a good person. And yes people will talk about me when I’m gone. Those who know me will remember good times and bad. (Hopefully more good than bad) I have a living legacy that I will leave behind. Likely with the morals and good sense that she has been given by birth and life itself.

So, in the end…. I’m good with the way things are. Not gonna change me for idle talk when I’m buried 6 feet under. I wasn’t a serial killer in life. I never raped or robbed anyone.  I was fun to hang around. I laughed a lot, and hopefully others laughed with me.

Will you leave behind a legacy worthy of the life you have lived? Ask yourself and others if you dare.